A Reckoning on Patriarchy – It’s About Time!

A great article by Nancy Le Tourneau of The Washington Monthly.




But of course, they’re not going down without a fight & these guys are NASTY MF’S.


“be feminine”

Be feminine they said.
Remove your body hair. Shave your legs. Shave your armpits. Shave your bikini line. Wax your face. Wax your arms. Wax your eyebrows. Get rid of your mustache. Bleach this. Bleach that. Lighten your skin. Tan your skin. Eradicate your scars. Cover your stretch marks. Tighten your abs. Plump your lips. Botox your wrinkles. Lift your face. Tuck your tummy. Thin your thighs. Tone your calves. Perk up your boobs. Look natural. Be yourself. Be genuine. Be confident. You’re trying too hard. You look overdone. Men don’t like girls who try too hard.

Be feminine they said.
Wear makeup. Prime your face. Conceal your blemishes. Contour your nose. Highlight your cheekbones. Line your lids. Fill in your brows. Lengthen your lashes. Color your lips. Powder, blush, bronze, highlight. Your hair is too short. Your hair is too long. Your ends are split. Highlight your hair. Your roots are showing. Dye your hair. Not blue, that looks unnatural. You’re going grey. You look so old. Look young. Look youthful. Look ageless. Don’t get old. Women don’t get old. Old is ugly. Men don’t like ugly. You’re wearing too much make up

Be feminine they said.
Save yourself. Be pure. Be virginal. Don’t talk about sex. Don’t flirt. Don’t be a skank. Don’t be a whore. Don’t sleep around. Don’t lose your dignity. Don’t have sex with too many men. Don’t give yourself away. Men don’t like sluts. Don’t be a prude. Don’t be so uptight. Have a little fun. Smile more. Pleasure men. Be experienced. Be sexual. Be innocent. Be dirty. Be virginal. Be sexy. Be the cool girl. Don’t be like the other girls.

Be feminine they said.
Don’t talk too loud. Don’t talk too much. Don’t take up space. Don’t sit like that. Don’t stand like that. Don’t be intimidating. Why are you so miserable? Don’t be a bitch. Don’t be so bossy. Don’t be assertive. Don’t overact. Don’t be so emotional. Don’t cry. Don’t yell. Don’t swear. Be passive. Be obedient. Endure the pain. Be pleasing. Don’t complain. Let him down easy. Boost his ego. Make him fall for you. Men want what they can’t have. Don’t give yourself away. Make him work for it. Men love the chase. Fold his clothes. Cook his dinner. Keep him happy. That’s a woman’s job. You’ll make a good wife some day. Take his last name. You hyphenated your name? Crazy feminist. Give him children. You don’t want children? You will some day. You’ll change your mind. You’ll change your name and give them his. What’s a family without a single name?

Be feminine they said.
Don’t get raped. Protect yourself. Don’t drink too much. Don’t walk alone. Don’t go out too late. Don’t dress like that. Don’t show too much. Don’t get drunk. Don’t leave your drink. Have a buddy. Walk where it is well lit. Stay in the safe neighborhoods. Tell someone where you’re going. Bring pepper spray. Buy a rape whistle. Hold your keys like a weapon. Take a self-defense course. Check your trunk. Lock your doors. Don’t go out alone. Don’t make eye contact. Don’t bat your eyelashes. Don’t look easy. Don’t attract attention. Don’t work late. Don’t crack dirty jokes. Don’t smile at
strangers. Don’t go out at night. Don’t trust anyone. Don’t say yes. Don’t say no. Have a life of your own, but not at night alone.

Just “be feminine” they said.

– Authors Unknown (women keep adding to it as it passes on)



This is not really a rant but a wondering

ya know, just wondering what the USA would be like if it had been Hillary Clinton who had won the Democratic Primary back in 2008 & gone on to win the election & then we had eight years of “The First Female President”, while Barack Obama stayed in the Senate, gaining experience & the friendships & contacts needed he would need when he would be elected in 2016 as the “The First Black President”.

We wouldn’t be living through the hell we’re living through now, that’s for damn sure.

The Yin & Yang of Sexual Harassment

from the Mahablog.  great blog.

She makes some great points, including: “And now at least one woman has been caught making false claims for political reasons, which was bound to happen. But it just takes a few women to be caught lying before we’re back to the assumption that all women are liars, which is worrisome.”

and: “My other concern is that men will take over the issue and assume the lead in writing the sexual harassment response handbook, because men always think they know better than we do, and they will screw it up.”


The question is WHY

There’s so much chaos going on that it’s easy to get confused.  & of course, it’s the holidays.  It’s really easy to say, I’m burned out with politics – I’m just going to shop til I drop & then I’m going to bake cookies & have mocha lattes & sing my favorite holiday songs.  & why not?  Do we not all feel a sense of powerlessness?  Way beyond what we ever felt in any AA meeting?

But I can’t help thinking.  Sleepless in my single bed, I think as I listen to the winds whipping off Lake Erie as the digital clock flips one minute after another.  WHY do they want to end “Net Neutrality”?  What is the purpose of making the internet slower & more expensive for the average consumer, not to mention hundreds if not thousands of small businesses & millions of non-profits (such as libraries) who depend on a free & open internet?  Not to mention colleges & universities?  All these places will have to charge more for their services or close up completely.

At the same time, there is this odious so-called “tax reform” bill working its way through congress.  It ends all kinds of deductions for higher education, charitable giving, & other things that benefit the rapidly declining middle class & quickly growing lower class.  But if you have a private jet, you can write that off!  YAY!

I have to ask myself, WHY?  Why are they – the rich people running our country – the congressmen & senators & the donor class that fund them – so intent on ruining things for everyone else?

Ending “net neutrality” & making it harder for people in the middle classes to get the tax breaks they need to continue their education or pay off their mortgage isn’t going to Make America Great Again.  It is, in fact, going to ruin what’s left of the economy.

WHY?  Why do they want to do this?

Are these people so anti-science that they want to get rid of research in America?  Because it’s graduate students who do the bulk of the research in American universities.  & if they can’t write off their tuition anymore, then they won’t be able to afford to go to school anymore.  & they won’t be able to work on their own anymore – like I have been these past six years – because either the internet will be too expensive or too slow or the sites needed for research will be censored.

Is this the reasons why?

Libertarians believe everything should be privately funded.  They don’t believe in paying taxes & they don’t believe in public anything – no libraries, busses, trains, schools – anything that benefits the public good.  In a libertarian world, all the roads would be privately owned & you would pay a toll every time you wanted to travel somewhere or you would stay home.

Our government is now in the hands of Libertarians.  If you don’t believe me, look up the biographies of the Koch Brothers and the Mercers, to name the two biggest donors of the GOP.  There are others but these are the main two.   Rand Paul, Betsy Devos, Paul Ryan are all Libertarians.  They do not believe that the government has a duty to help the citizens, the people who they are sworn to represent.  Have you noticed that nobody even uses the word “citizen” anymore?  We are all “consumers”.  We don’t even rate as members of our own country anymore.

Keep asking WHY.  I know, it seems amazing that our government would want to blow up our own economy but there has been LOTS of amazing & unbelievable things that has happened in America since I was born in 1960 & I would believe almost anything now.  Who would believe that a reality TV personality with a sprayed-on orange tan & the worst toupee known to man would get elected to the highest position in America?

If you want to join the battle to save Net Neutrality, here’s a link: https://www.battleforthenet.com/

Never stop asking WHY.   #resist.

Insurgent Feminism

FARC’s Insurgent Feminism.  From Upside Down World.  Feminism in Colombia.  an article by Kimberley J. Brown.


This is the part I particularly liked:

“For Insurgent Feminism, fighting for gender equality goes beyond creating progressive laws that encourage women to study, own land, or control their own finances — although it does entail all of these things. But it also means fighting the capitalist system, which has played a major role in fomenting gender roles in society, keeping women away from the means of production, and, consequently, their ability to take control of their own lives. This is even more true for working class women.

“According to their Thesis on Women and Gender, what feminism under capitalism has done is create the circumstances for some women — mainly middle and upper class — to enjoy certain individual freedoms.

“But the guerrilla feminist movement, staying true to its Marxist ideology, looks for real structural transformation in society to liberate all women. This can only be achieved by changing the distribution of wealth, overcoming gendered divisions of labor, and understanding the current and historic role of women in society.”

Read the entire article.  It’s very informative & inspiring.

Reblogging From Helen Steel

This is about a book fair in the UK.  For me, the truly interesting part is the end, where she shares the pamphlet she was handing out.  If you are interested in the erasure of women & words that describe women, women’s functions & women as a class in & of themselves, you will be interested in this.

I was in the process of writing a longer article around the events at the Anarchist Bookfair on Saturday, but I am also trying to stay on top of the rest of my life while dealing with the horrendous bullying of people around me which is underway by some trans activists and allies. I have […]

via Statement on events at Anarchist Bookfair 2017 – By Helen Steel — SOLIDARITY WITH HELEN STEEL