When Is It Ever Gonna End?

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Obviously he’s no better at playing golf than he is at being president or anything else he’s ever done in his life.  The Greatest Loser.  That’s him.

If you voted for him & you are still on his “team”, then I have no words for you & I really don’t want to be your friend at all.  If you’re a member of my family, then … I’ll hold my tongue.

If you voted for him & you now have “regrets”, because you are losing your healthcare, your HEAP, your Meals on Wheels, your union membership, everything else you thought was sacrosanct, I don’t feel sorry for you at all, because THIS FAT FUCK told you ALL THROUGH HIS CAMPAIGN JUST WHO THE FUCK HE WAS & WHAT HIS VALUES WERE.  & YOU ALL CHEERED.  & to say now, “Gee, I didn’t think he meant it” or “I guess he lied” just shows how you WEREN’T PAYING ATTENTION.  I mean – oh BOO HOO HOO.  Lke the saying goes, get over it, already.  Just who the fuck do you think you were dealing with?  Jesus Christ?

If you voted for Gary Johnson, you are just a selfish asshole & I wouldn’t waste my time on you.  Libertarianism is just a seven-syllable word for selfishness.

If you voted for Jill Stein, I do understand the political motivations for your vote IF you were voting to help the Green Party get to that 5% mark that (for some reason) political parties have to get to get financial funding.  According to http://heavy.com/news/2016/11/how-many-votes-electoral-did-jill-stein-get-in-the-presidential-election/, Stein & the Greens got 1% of the vote, which is really quite an advance for the Greens, up from .036% in 2012.  However, I have to say … you could have voted for a woman who would NOT be stripping healthcare from millions of people.  Who would NOT be ending HEAP payments in the dead of winter.  Who would NOT be ending Meals on Wheels & funding for the arts & NPR & PBS.  & dozens of other things that HELP PEOPLE.

If you decided not to vote at all … you still made a choice.  & you chose that FAT FUCK.  YES, YOU DID.  By choosing to stay home, to stay at work, to go out to lunch instead of packing a lunch & standing in line to vote, to not check into early voting in your state, to do WHATEVER IT TOOK to get your voice heard … you, by your silence, endorsed the hate & the meanness the entire USA is now having to endure.  & not the the US!   He & his band of assholes are going to inflict this on the entire world.  MARK MY WORDS.

Any kind of protest vote you made because you REALLY wanted Bernie Sanders … all I can say is, HE TOLD YOU WHAT HE WANTED YOU TO DO.  & YOU DIDN’T DO IT.  So maybe you weren’t really that much into him, after all.  Maybe you never would have showed up at the polls to vote for him, either.  Who knows?  It’s easy to say, Oh, I would have voted for Bernie … after the fact.  Lots of THAT going around.  & if you voted for that FAT FUCK when you REALLY wanted Bernie, then … you’re just a fucking idiot.  & you probably don’t like women, either.  Not in power, anyway.

Whatever your reasons were … by not choosing Hillary Clinton … & honestly, I DO NOT CARE if you “didn’t like her”.  I do not care if she was not “feminist” enough for you.  I do not care if she was an “old hag” & you’re some dude who only like “hot babes”.  I do not care if you’re a fundamentalist Christian & your only issue is the ending of legal abortion (which won’t end abortion, you fucking moron).  She was the ONLY CHOICE.  By not choosing her, millions of Americans are now going to suffer.  For your fantasy of black & white TV world.  For your magical thinking.  For your idiotic, selfish reasons.  & that’s ALL they were.

I have barely been able to write since the election because of the daily outrages & a depression that has only gotten worse.  But to be quiet is to be complicit.  & I won’t be.  I will NEVER be.  This administration is evil & a scourge upon our nation.



Another great read from Feminist Current

This was posted yesterday.  Written brilliantly by Natasha Chart.

This is how they broke our grandmothers

This is the best thing I’ve read all day

“We need to be braver – Women challenge ‘gender identity’ and the silencing of feminist discource” … an article by Meghan Murphy from Feminist Current … A GREAT READ.

‘We need to be braver’ — women challenge ‘gender identity’ and the silencing of feminist discourse

A Warped Way of Twisting Feminism?

I got in an argument with a Facebook friend today about Feminism.  She put up some meme about how Feminism was about protecting rights for all people or something like that.  The usual: Feminism is for Everyone!  Feminism is for men, transwomen, everyone who could ever be hurt by the patriarchy!  Because patriarchy is so tough on the male gender.

I commented that no, Feminism was about Women’s rights & Women’s issues.  Not that men don’t have their own civil rights issues (I guess) & that trans-women do have civil rights issues to fight for, as do homosexuals & many other people but that’s not Feminism.   Feminism is about Women.

She answered, “… that’s a really warped way of twisting feminism. I have never seen it defined that way. I’m aware of some fringe groups who have expressed ignorance towards trans people but I have never accepted their statements as a part of what the majority of feminists believe or strive for. There were feminists who didn’t want to include women of color or lesbian women and the movement certainly evolved beyond that and continues to evolve as we all learn more and come to appreciate new identities and new ways of being.”

OK, I’ve been reading books & articles about Feminism since 1970 (at least) & I took classes about Feminism at the State University of New York at Buffalo’s Women’s Study College – renamed the Gender Studies College in 1984 & currently called the Global Gender Studies Program – which gave me a firm foundation not only in Feminist Theory but also Marxist-Leninist collectivist theory, cultural gender studies, the politics of white supremacy & the beauty of lesbian love.  I also read women writers – many that I had heard of & many more that I was new to & grew to love.

I also said that there is no such thing as a “lady brain” & a “man brain” & to think along those lines is perpetuating the very patriarchal thinking that Feminism is trying to eradicate & has been trying to FOR YEARS & YEARS.

This Facebook friend – who is no longer a friend, since debates on Facebook always seem to end that way! – is about 30 years younger than me.  I always find it interesting that younger women seem to think that they invented Feminism – or they’ve reinvented it -because we older women don’t know what it is or should be.  & I also find it interesting that they think that trans-people never existed before the 21st century.  I mean, give me a break!  She – & another friend who joined in to school me on what I should be reading & how I should be thinking – seemed to think that I had stopped learning in 1980 or something.  & that I was just some old fuddy-duddy who didn’t know anything.

She also said, “Feminism needs to evolve & grow beyond the binary of male & female.”  I disagree.  Feminism doesn’t need to evolve & grow at all.  Feminism is fine working to promote the rights & issues of women & women alone.   & honestly – there is no other binary except male & female.  Women have XX chromosomes & men have XY chromosomes & that’s the way it works. You can change your hair, your breasts, your voice, your clothing – but you’re not going to be able to change those chromosomes.  & there’s other things you can’t change as well – which I’m not getting into here.  You can say all you like that there are other genders – that there are 4 or 5 or 6 or how many you want – but again – that’s a cultural construct – that’s not sex.  When it comes to sex – we’re talking biology.  Not gender.  There is no such thing as a “lady brain” or a “man brain”.  We’re not color-coded pink or blue.

Why do so many women feel the need to include men in feminism?  Is it because they are in a relationship with men?  Because they think the transgender ideology is groovy & cool & they want to be part of the in crowd?  I don’t know.  But being a crone, I don’t care.   I am at the age where I just end the conversation & move along.

Because I AM a feminist.  Since I was 10 years old.


On Being Comfortable

I started college in 1978 – I went to The State University of New York at Buffalo & I lived at the Ellicott Complex in the Red Jacket Quad – if you’re into science fiction, this is the place for you.  Anyway, I remember that there were two bathrooms on my floor – a men’s facility two doors from my room, which was at the very end of the hall right by the stairwell – a terrible location – & the women’s bathroom, which was all the way at the other end – really not a far walk BUT if you woke up in the middle of the night & had a wicked pee, it seemed like a really long way, so I used to pop into the men’s room – into a stall, out of a stall – & back to my room.  Usually there was no one else in there or maybe someone was taking a middle-of-the-night shower.  Not once did I pass a guy at the urinals although at that Janis Joplin stage of my life, it probably wouldn’t have bothered me.

The people it bothered were the MEN.  The R.A. on my hall told me that the men had protested that I was using THEIR bathroom, & that I was to stop doing it, even though it was only once in a while & only in the middle of the night.  Naturally I argued about it.  I said that we were all adults & presumably polite adults & IF YOU GO INTO THE BATHROOM TO DO YOUR BUSINESS, THAT’S WHAT YOU DO.  In & out.  I couldn’t understand the problem then & I still don’t.  I put forth the idea of unisex bathrooms but of course that was laughed off.

So these guys must have moved down to the Carolinas or something.  Half of Buffalo & the rest of New York State migrated south, I know that.  I read the paper & all these articles about “bathroom bills” & I have to think, really?  In the twenty-first century, we’re still worried about the damn bathroom?

People frame it in different ways & it comes down to several different issues:  protecting children.  Protecting the sensitive feelings of others.  Protecting people’s sense of privacy.

This morning, I read this:  http://hudsonvalleynewsnetwork.com/2016/05/08/kingston-gym-transgender-spotlight/   & it got me to thinking.  Take a minute to read it.

I live in Buffalo, NY, which is going through a “renaissance” of sorts … I’ve lived here many years & I’ve seen this before … but there’s lots of new construction going on & lots of old places being remodeled into newer, better places.  One thing I have noticed is that many places  – bars, restuarants – are going to a “unisex” bathroom idea.  One big bathroom, with stall doors low enough to the floor that a person cannot peer underneath, & large wash areas with a common mirror & even a changing table that both fathers & mothers can access, since many men are now changing the diapers!  The first place I saw do this was The Steer, at the end of my street, several years ago now.  My idea from 1978-79.  People used to tell me I was crazy & laugh at me but here we are.

& remember all the ERA nonsense?  We couldn’t have an Equal Rights Amendment because of bathrooms?

Here we are in 2016 & the anti-women forces are still talking about bathrooms.  & it IS the anti-women forces.  Don’t be fooled by anything they say about protecting you or me or our children.  It seems to Aunt Polly that whoever came up with these “bathroom bills” remembered how the ERA was derailed by bathroom issues very well.  Here’s an article from Thinkprogress citing this very fact: http://thinkprogress.org/justice/2015/11/06/3719688/how-the-religious-right-learned-to-use-bathrooms-as-a-weapon-against-justice/

Anyone who knows me knows that I believe that you can’t turn a man into a woman by changing his body parts & you can’t turn a woman into a man & all that.  I just don’t buy it & that’s the way it is.  Call me a TERF, call me transphobic, call me anything the fuck you want – I really don’t care – I’ve heard worse.  You have your beliefs & I have mine & I happen to have biology on my side.  BUT on a practical level, there have been people like this all around us FOREVER & it’s about time we as a culture started growing up & dealing with our icky feelings about it.  Not mine per se … Aunt Polly is always practical.  & she knows that feelings come & feeling go.  & it doesn’t matter how I FEEL about a person, I still have to treat that person with love & respect.

As for protecting children, ANY child any can get molested ANYWHERE by ANYONE of ANY GENDER.  & usually it’s someone the child knows very well.  A relative or a member of their church or someone at their school or a coach or a scout master or a neighbor.  THAT’S THE SAD TRUTH & THE SOONER WE AS A CULTURE OWN THIS TRUTH WE WILL BE ABLE TO PROTECT OUR CHILDREN.  But blaming transpeople for child molestation is totally ridiculous.  I mean, has this ever actually happened?  Really?

As for protecting the sensitive feelings of others, it seems that there’s WAY TOO MUCH of this lately.  Grow the fuck up already!  Stop FEELING so much & start THINKING.  Read & learn & analyze.  Get out of your own neighborhood & out of your car & take a walk.  Put down the phone & open your eyes & your ears.  STFU already!  Listen to the world!  When you’re feeling all the time, you can’t do anything else.  & feelings change.  Aunt Polly has kept a diary since the age of 10 & she is now soon to be 56 years of age & I can tell you that in those 55 years, her feelings have changed radically – up & down, back & forth, sometimes embarrassingly so!  Feelings don’t really matter.  It’s what you think & we as a culture seem to have forgotten all about THINKING.

About privacy.  I do understand those issues, in fact, this is why Aunt Polly doesn’t join a gym herself.  I don’t want to get sweaty & then shower with anyone – women, men, trans – it doesn’t matter to me – I want to be alone.  & honestly, if I was somewhere where I wanted to be private & I saw a man’s penis, I might just have to get angry about that.  I think I probably would.  Men have been showing me their dicks since I was a little girl & I really don’t want to see them anymore.  Put those things away!  Nobody cares about your precious members!  Get over yourselves already!

The aforementioned article gave me hope that people can work out this idiotic bathroom issue – of course the bathrooms mentioned were in the Hudson Valley area of New York State as opposed to North Carolina or Tennessee or one of the other Bible belt states.  However, it doesn’t matter where you live.  There are idiots everywhere.  & there are people who are willing to try to work things out.  Which one are you?  I know who I am.




About Me


I decided that my blogs had to be revamped.  I needed to start blogging EVERY DAY.  I read some people’s blogs & they’re not even blogging about much of anything.  I keep a diary & I write on a daily basis & I don’t write about anything either.  The trick to blogging is to take that private daily diary & put it out here on the internet.

I am a 55-year-old woman who is on SSI/SSD.  I am on SS because of Bipolar Disease 1, arthritis & migraines.  I live with 3 cats & my son, who is in college.  I have two college degrees & I am a freelance writer.  One of my regular gigs is writing the “Seeing the Signs” column for the Pagan Pages ezine.  I am not so much a pagan as I am a spiritual feminist.  I have no use for the patriarchy whatsoever.  I am passionate about radical feminism.

My other blogs are “Chasing the Queen”, about Mary Queen of Scots, & “sonnets”, which speaks for itself.  They too, need attention.

Right now my big project is transcribing my handwritten diary into word & saving into onto a flash drive.  I have finished my childhood diary & all of the 80’s & am working my way through the 90’s.  I am thinking of how I can turn this into a novel.  I thought of starting still another blog which would be the novel itself but I am not sure if I am ready to take that step.

Other interests I have are cooking, needlework, collecting books & images of the Goddess.  I love to hunt & fish but this is the first fall season that I am not hunting.  I take two long walks everyday.  I love being outdoors, whether I am in the city or the country.