A Reckoning on Patriarchy – It’s About Time!

A great article by Nancy Le Tourneau of The Washington Monthly.




But of course, they’re not going down without a fight & these guys are NASTY MF’S.


“be feminine”

Be feminine they said.
Remove your body hair. Shave your legs. Shave your armpits. Shave your bikini line. Wax your face. Wax your arms. Wax your eyebrows. Get rid of your mustache. Bleach this. Bleach that. Lighten your skin. Tan your skin. Eradicate your scars. Cover your stretch marks. Tighten your abs. Plump your lips. Botox your wrinkles. Lift your face. Tuck your tummy. Thin your thighs. Tone your calves. Perk up your boobs. Look natural. Be yourself. Be genuine. Be confident. You’re trying too hard. You look overdone. Men don’t like girls who try too hard.

Be feminine they said.
Wear makeup. Prime your face. Conceal your blemishes. Contour your nose. Highlight your cheekbones. Line your lids. Fill in your brows. Lengthen your lashes. Color your lips. Powder, blush, bronze, highlight. Your hair is too short. Your hair is too long. Your ends are split. Highlight your hair. Your roots are showing. Dye your hair. Not blue, that looks unnatural. You’re going grey. You look so old. Look young. Look youthful. Look ageless. Don’t get old. Women don’t get old. Old is ugly. Men don’t like ugly. You’re wearing too much make up

Be feminine they said.
Save yourself. Be pure. Be virginal. Don’t talk about sex. Don’t flirt. Don’t be a skank. Don’t be a whore. Don’t sleep around. Don’t lose your dignity. Don’t have sex with too many men. Don’t give yourself away. Men don’t like sluts. Don’t be a prude. Don’t be so uptight. Have a little fun. Smile more. Pleasure men. Be experienced. Be sexual. Be innocent. Be dirty. Be virginal. Be sexy. Be the cool girl. Don’t be like the other girls.

Be feminine they said.
Don’t talk too loud. Don’t talk too much. Don’t take up space. Don’t sit like that. Don’t stand like that. Don’t be intimidating. Why are you so miserable? Don’t be a bitch. Don’t be so bossy. Don’t be assertive. Don’t overact. Don’t be so emotional. Don’t cry. Don’t yell. Don’t swear. Be passive. Be obedient. Endure the pain. Be pleasing. Don’t complain. Let him down easy. Boost his ego. Make him fall for you. Men want what they can’t have. Don’t give yourself away. Make him work for it. Men love the chase. Fold his clothes. Cook his dinner. Keep him happy. That’s a woman’s job. You’ll make a good wife some day. Take his last name. You hyphenated your name? Crazy feminist. Give him children. You don’t want children? You will some day. You’ll change your mind. You’ll change your name and give them his. What’s a family without a single name?

Be feminine they said.
Don’t get raped. Protect yourself. Don’t drink too much. Don’t walk alone. Don’t go out too late. Don’t dress like that. Don’t show too much. Don’t get drunk. Don’t leave your drink. Have a buddy. Walk where it is well lit. Stay in the safe neighborhoods. Tell someone where you’re going. Bring pepper spray. Buy a rape whistle. Hold your keys like a weapon. Take a self-defense course. Check your trunk. Lock your doors. Don’t go out alone. Don’t make eye contact. Don’t bat your eyelashes. Don’t look easy. Don’t attract attention. Don’t work late. Don’t crack dirty jokes. Don’t smile at
strangers. Don’t go out at night. Don’t trust anyone. Don’t say yes. Don’t say no. Have a life of your own, but not at night alone.

Just “be feminine” they said.

– Authors Unknown (women keep adding to it as it passes on)



This is not really a rant but a wondering

ya know, just wondering what the USA would be like if it had been Hillary Clinton who had won the Democratic Primary back in 2008 & gone on to win the election & then we had eight years of “The First Female President”, while Barack Obama stayed in the Senate, gaining experience & the friendships & contacts needed he would need when he would be elected in 2016 as the “The First Black President”.

We wouldn’t be living through the hell we’re living through now, that’s for damn sure.

The Yin & Yang of Sexual Harassment

from the Mahablog.  great blog.

She makes some great points, including: “And now at least one woman has been caught making false claims for political reasons, which was bound to happen. But it just takes a few women to be caught lying before we’re back to the assumption that all women are liars, which is worrisome.”

and: “My other concern is that men will take over the issue and assume the lead in writing the sexual harassment response handbook, because men always think they know better than we do, and they will screw it up.”


Insurgent Feminism

FARC’s Insurgent Feminism.  From Upside Down World.  Feminism in Colombia.  an article by Kimberley J. Brown.


This is the part I particularly liked:

“For Insurgent Feminism, fighting for gender equality goes beyond creating progressive laws that encourage women to study, own land, or control their own finances — although it does entail all of these things. But it also means fighting the capitalist system, which has played a major role in fomenting gender roles in society, keeping women away from the means of production, and, consequently, their ability to take control of their own lives. This is even more true for working class women.

“According to their Thesis on Women and Gender, what feminism under capitalism has done is create the circumstances for some women — mainly middle and upper class — to enjoy certain individual freedoms.

“But the guerrilla feminist movement, staying true to its Marxist ideology, looks for real structural transformation in society to liberate all women. This can only be achieved by changing the distribution of wealth, overcoming gendered divisions of labor, and understanding the current and historic role of women in society.”

Read the entire article.  It’s very informative & inspiring.

Reblogging From Helen Steel

This is about a book fair in the UK.  For me, the truly interesting part is the end, where she shares the pamphlet she was handing out.  If you are interested in the erasure of women & words that describe women, women’s functions & women as a class in & of themselves, you will be interested in this.

I was in the process of writing a longer article around the events at the Anarchist Bookfair on Saturday, but I am also trying to stay on top of the rest of my life while dealing with the horrendous bullying of people around me which is underway by some trans activists and allies. I have […]

via Statement on events at Anarchist Bookfair 2017 – By Helen Steel — SOLIDARITY WITH HELEN STEEL

When Is It Ever Gonna End?

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Obviously he’s no better at playing golf than he is at being president or anything else he’s ever done in his life.  The Greatest Loser.  That’s him.

If you voted for him & you are still on his “team”, then I have no words for you & I really don’t want to be your friend at all.  If you’re a member of my family, then … I’ll hold my tongue.

If you voted for him & you now have “regrets”, because you are losing your healthcare, your HEAP, your Meals on Wheels, your union membership, everything else you thought was sacrosanct, I don’t feel sorry for you at all, because THIS FAT FUCK told you ALL THROUGH HIS CAMPAIGN JUST WHO THE FUCK HE WAS & WHAT HIS VALUES WERE.  & YOU ALL CHEERED.  & to say now, “Gee, I didn’t think he meant it” or “I guess he lied” just shows how you WEREN’T PAYING ATTENTION.  I mean – oh BOO HOO HOO.  Lke the saying goes, get over it, already.  Just who the fuck do you think you were dealing with?  Jesus Christ?

If you voted for Gary Johnson, you are just a selfish asshole & I wouldn’t waste my time on you.  Libertarianism is just a seven-syllable word for selfishness.

If you voted for Jill Stein, I do understand the political motivations for your vote IF you were voting to help the Green Party get to that 5% mark that (for some reason) political parties have to get to get financial funding.  According to http://heavy.com/news/2016/11/how-many-votes-electoral-did-jill-stein-get-in-the-presidential-election/, Stein & the Greens got 1% of the vote, which is really quite an advance for the Greens, up from .036% in 2012.  However, I have to say … you could have voted for a woman who would NOT be stripping healthcare from millions of people.  Who would NOT be ending HEAP payments in the dead of winter.  Who would NOT be ending Meals on Wheels & funding for the arts & NPR & PBS.  & dozens of other things that HELP PEOPLE.

If you decided not to vote at all … you still made a choice.  & you chose that FAT FUCK.  YES, YOU DID.  By choosing to stay home, to stay at work, to go out to lunch instead of packing a lunch & standing in line to vote, to not check into early voting in your state, to do WHATEVER IT TOOK to get your voice heard … you, by your silence, endorsed the hate & the meanness the entire USA is now having to endure.  & not the the US!   He & his band of assholes are going to inflict this on the entire world.  MARK MY WORDS.

Any kind of protest vote you made because you REALLY wanted Bernie Sanders … all I can say is, HE TOLD YOU WHAT HE WANTED YOU TO DO.  & YOU DIDN’T DO IT.  So maybe you weren’t really that much into him, after all.  Maybe you never would have showed up at the polls to vote for him, either.  Who knows?  It’s easy to say, Oh, I would have voted for Bernie … after the fact.  Lots of THAT going around.  & if you voted for that FAT FUCK when you REALLY wanted Bernie, then … you’re just a fucking idiot.  & you probably don’t like women, either.  Not in power, anyway.

Whatever your reasons were … by not choosing Hillary Clinton … & honestly, I DO NOT CARE if you “didn’t like her”.  I do not care if she was not “feminist” enough for you.  I do not care if she was an “old hag” & you’re some dude who only like “hot babes”.  I do not care if you’re a fundamentalist Christian & your only issue is the ending of legal abortion (which won’t end abortion, you fucking moron).  She was the ONLY CHOICE.  By not choosing her, millions of Americans are now going to suffer.  For your fantasy of black & white TV world.  For your magical thinking.  For your idiotic, selfish reasons.  & that’s ALL they were.

I have barely been able to write since the election because of the daily outrages & a depression that has only gotten worse.  But to be quiet is to be complicit.  & I won’t be.  I will NEVER be.  This administration is evil & a scourge upon our nation.